You're not fighting about the dishes.
Couples therapy in Ohio, Illinois, and North Carolina for partners who keep having the same fight- and want to actually change something
What brings most couples in
You've probably tried talking about it, and it hasn't helped.
Maybe you've had the same conversation twenty times and it always ends the same way. Someone shuts down. Someone pushes. You go to bed frustrated, distant, or both.
It's not that you don't love each other, it's that the way you've learned to reach for each other isn't working. And neither of you knows how to change the pattern without turning into another fight.
Some couples come in at a breaking point. Some come in early, wanting to build something strong before things get harder. Some are trying to figure out whether to stay. Wherever you are, that's a good place to start.
How I work with couples
Something more than just talking about your feelings
I draw primarily from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method — two of the most research-supported approaches for couples. What that means practically: we're not just processing what happened last week. We're looking at the patterns underneath — the cycle that keeps pulling you both in — and working to interrupt it.
Sessions often involve noticing what's happening in the body, not just the words. When someone shuts down or escalates, that's information. We slow it down and work with it.
I also integrate somatic approaches, IFS, and Brainspotting when they're useful. Every couple is different, and I'm not attached to a single formula.
Who this is for
This might be for you if...
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You're stuck in a cycle that you can both see but can't break
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One of you has pulled away; they other can't stop pushing
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There's been a rupture- an affair, a loss, a decision that broke trust
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You're navigating a major transition: a new baby, career change, move, loss
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You're not sure if you want to stay, but you want to make a real decision- not one made from exhaustion
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You want to invest in your relationship before it gets to a crisis point
Weekly therapy vs intensives
Two ways to do this work
Weekly couples therapy gives you a consistent, protected space to work through what's coming up in real time. Sessions are 55–80 minutes. Most couples meet weekly, especially in the earlier stages of the work.
Couples intensives are a different format entirely — half-day, full-day, or multi-day extended sessions designed to do in a concentrated period what weekly therapy might take months to reach. If you're in crisis, at a decision point, or just want to move faster, an intensive may be worth considering.
Getting started
1. Schedule a free consultation: We'll talk about what's going on and whether this feels like a good fit.
2. Book your first session: 60- 80 minutes for the initial couples session so there's room to actually get into it.
3. Start doing something different: not just talking about the problem, but shifting the pattern underneath it.
Accepting new couples clients in Ohio, Illinois, and North Carolina. Sessions are telehealth.